You think you’re on to something. You met a great guy. The two of you went out for a few dates and from your end things seemed fabulous, but all of a sudden, he goes dark on you. You haven’t heard from him and he hasn’t answered your texts. He vanished like a ghost in face of what you thought was a blossoming relationship. What’s more, you’re dating life hasn’t been the best recently. Guys pull disappearing acts for many reasons. Most of the time, it’s not you! Yes.

He may really be into you. Dating you may have been one of the better decisions he’s made. But he doesn’t want to keep dating because he knows it’s going so well that he sees commitment on the horizon. He may not be ready to commit or he may have a fear of commitment. He may fear the loss of his old lifestyle. He can also have a fear of the unknown as he may not be use to commitment. Or even a fear of a successful relationship because all he may be used to is chaos.

Sometimes he may find he doesn’t want to keep dating at all. Or this just isn’t the right time for him. The problem is that he doesn’t know how to tell you. He simply doesn’t possess the communication skills needed to end on good terms. He may be afraid of the outcome if he were to talk about it directly. I constantly work with my clients on communication skills. They are essential to a sustained, fulfilling relationship. That’s right. He could still be hung up on her.

What can you do? Quite simply, he may have found someone he likes more. Maybe he didn’t communicate this to you. Maybe it’s something he doesn’t want to let go of because he’s just not sure. He could have easily got wrapped up with someone else and just lumped you into a pile with everyone else that he disappeared on. It’s time to move on. Accept his absence for whatever reason and find someone new. Life is way too short.